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Hoe een beschermingsmechanisme ontstaat - Brian van Leeuwen
🥵Ik ben er helemaal klaar mee 🥵 De basisschool was voor mij al een interessante periode. Als ik erop terugkijk dan ervaar ik vooral dat ik mij niet begrepen voelde. Ik voelde mij toen al anders. Ergens voelde ik ook dat ik hier op aarde iets te doen had, al zat dat toen echt niet in mijn bewustzijn. Ik had het altijd over rijk worden en in overvloed leven. Ik voelde een sterke connectie met dieren en ik wilde ook het liefst met dieren werken. Vanbinnen was ik super kwetsbaar en gevoelig, maar als kind zijnde ervaar je al snel dat het niet zo werkt in deze wereld. Tenminste toen nog niet. Groepjes ontstaan. De jongens doen stoer en de ene probeert weer stoerder te doen dan de ander. Zelf zat ik daar tussenin. Ik werd zelf ook weleens gepest door de jongens uit een hogere groep. Ik was een makkelijke prooi als kwetsbare, gevoelige jongen. Daarbij ben ik enig kind met een moeder die alles voor haar zoon over heeft en alleen het beste in hem zag en nog steeds ziet. Een moederskindje werd dat op de basisschool wel ook wel genoemd. Dat hielp niet mee op school. Ga je je moeder er weer bij halen? Kan je het niet alleen aan? Wat ben je toch een sukkeltje. Ik herinner mij een opmerking van Thijs (dit is niet de echte naam van deze persoon i.v.m. integriteit:) nog op de basisschool. Ik had met een andere jongen na schooltijd afgesproken en samengespeeld, zoals we dat noemden toen we jong waren. Thijs vond dat niet zo tof, omdat Thijs ook vrienden was met die jongen. Je gaat toch niet met Brian spelen? Die opmerking heeft mij jarenlang achtervolgd.
Op een gegeven moment was ik klaar met zulke opmerkingen. Ik was helemaal klaar met het gepest. Ik zat toen inmiddels in groep zeven. Ik had de ideale manier gevonden om ervoor te zorgen dat het pesten zou stoppen. Ik ging het terugdoen. Een eerste beschermingsmechanisme werd gevormd. Doet iemand je pijn dan doe je diegene nog harder pijn terug. Ik zag dat dit werkte en dit zorgde voor nog een laag om het gevoelige jongetje heen. Zo hoefde ik in ieder geval niet meer de pijn te voelen. Vervolgens ging ik van mij afbijten als ik werd gepest of als ik mij bedreigd voelde. Ik kwam met verbaal geweld terug en ik begon van mij af te slaan.
Op dat moment lijkt het de oplossing, maar wanneer je je daar niet bewust van bent dan kan je dit type mechanismen het hele leven met je meedragen. Het kan voor ernstige schade zorgen kan ik je uit eigen ervaring vertellen. Daarom ben ik zo’n fan van regressie therapie. Door middel van hypnose terug naar de kinderjaren om daar het trauma te herbeleven en te helen.
Aho 💚🦦
(bovenstaande tekst komt uit mijn eerste boek ʜᴇᴛ ʜᴀᴅ ᴢᴏᴍᴀᴀʀ ᴀɴᴅᴇʀꜱ ᴋᴜɴɴᴇɴ ᴀꜰʟᴏᴘᴇɴ, die naar verwachting eind 2021/begin 2022 gepubliceerd gaat worden)
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