Do you long for a life full of passion, love and connection with yourself or with a partner? But do you notice that loneliness, jealousy and fear hold you back from truly enjoying life?
It is possible to undergo a transformation in this. Yes really.. It is possible!
Last night I noticed again how important it is to take time for yourself and your partner. Of course I knew that, but when you experience it yourself again, it is so beautiful, powerful and loving.
Esther Geskus and I went to a Maha Kundalini Tantra couples workshop on our Valentine's date last night.
However.. In our busy and hectic world it is not uncommon to sometimes feel lonely, anxious or disconnected. It happens regularly that we lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of the day, which means you have little to no time for yourself. Let alone for your partner.
But what if I told you that these feelings don't have to be the last word? And that it is really possible to step out of the busy and hectic world and slow down? And that in those moments you really feel again how wonderful this is.
Tantric exercises are a useful tool for us to get closer to each other again. And I call them tantric exercises now, but you could just as well call them connection exercises. Which you can do with yourself and/or with your partner. You don't even have to go out for that, they don't cost anything and you can just do them at home.
One of the most powerful aspects of tantra is the idea of mutual care and respect in relationships. By consciously paying attention to your partner's needs and desires, you create an atmosphere of love and connection in which both parties can thrive.
But… Tantra always starts with yourself. It is only when you have made a deep connection with your own inner world that you are able to make a real connection with others. This means that you have to take time to look inside, accept yourself and love yourself as you are. So also within a relationship.
And I can tell you that it has a very positive effect on all your relationships, not just your love relationships, if you can connect more deeply with yourself. Which in turn allows you to connect more deeply with others. As within, so without.
My first tip for you is to take a few minutes each day to self-reflect. This can be as simple as sitting still and listening to your breathing. By regularly connecting with your inner self, you will find that your connection with others deepens as well.
My second tip for you is to seek out nature. Especially when you work indoors a lot and sit behind a computer, it is so valuable to seek out the connection with yourself and nature again. Do you want to do it really well? Then walk barefoot through the forest! Grounding immediately ensures that you can come closer to yourself again.
My third tip is to reserve time in your agenda. I always start, with exceptions of course, every morning with a silent meditation. And then I do a lesson from a course in miracles. Get started with daily rituals that contribute to the connection with yourself.
And the last tip I want to give you is for people who are in a love relationship. There you go again… Reserve time in your agenda to be together. By that I don’t mean sitting on the couch at the end of the day and watching a series or playing a game. No… By that I mean that you can go out. Follow a workshop. Visit a city. Take walks together. The best investment in your relationship is time and attention. Keep appreciating each other. Keep seeking passion together.
And… finally… do you find that difficult? Then you can always do a couples workshop. Esther guides these with couples and brings you back into a deeper connection with each other in a short period of time! 
And.. One more time and then… Believe me… She is the best at that with her love! I am lucky enough to merge with that daily. So if you as a couple can already make use of that for a few hours then wow.. That is so eye-opening.
Together we create heaven on earth,
Lots of love,
Brian