Life triggers you right in front of you if you're not careful. And before you know it, you're diving right back into projection. A complete bull's eye...
Let's be honest. Life is full of triggers. A man standing in front of you in the supermarket queue who happened to forget a pack of butter and has to go all the way back to the fridge at the back of the supermarket. As a result, you have to wait longer and you just miss the connection of the train at 13:38 to Groningen. As a result, you have to wait 20 minutes for the next connection.
Another example…
You have registered for a tantra workshop because you find it difficult to connect with others. You start full of courage and you are proud of yourself for taking this on. However, as the day of the workshop approaches, the fear starts to creep in more and more. You start to think that others do not like you. Negative stories and scenarios start to play in your head about what could go wrong... which makes you doubt more and more whether this is the moment...
One last example…
It’s Sunday morning and you decide to go for a long walk. You’ve been single for a while. You date every now and then, but being alone is what makes you feel good and safe. During the walk you run into the person you “coincidentally” had a date with last week. It was so nice that you decided to have a second date. But on that Sunday morning it happens. You see them walking with someone else. All the alarm bells go off. You almost trip over a tree stump, you start to stagger and immediately the uncertainty strikes. The rest of the day you wonder whether you should send that person a message…
Above I have listed three possible triggers, but let's be honest... the list of examples is endless. Triggers come in all shapes and sizes. And everyone can be triggered in a different way.
But where does such a trigger come from? How is it activated? And what can you do to neutralize the trigger?
As I see it there is only one way and that is to go to your own inner world. If you don't do that, you end up in projection and you blame the outside world. That is not the solution, because a trigger always says something about something that lives in your inner world. Otherwise it is not mirrored in the outside world.
And that trigger occurs because there is still “unresolved” issues from the past in your (sub)conscious existence. As long as these “unresolved” issues, let’s call them painful or trauma, are still alive.. Then the outside world will continue to mirror this.
This way you will continue to be triggered by that same person, situation or environment. Something happens in the outside world that touches something inside you. Not to bully you, but to show you that "something" still needs attention.
That's why it's much more beautiful to be grateful for the trigger. See it as a gift. Which causes the charge on the trigger to be reduced immediately. You always have a choice in how you deal with a trigger.
The entire cause of the trigger and the trigger in the outside world will soften and will increasingly disappear/neutralize.
Love,
Brian
Do you find this interesting? Then listen to the podcast with Esther that we recorded about Triggers in the field of Tantra.
You can listen to this podcast here.